Monday, August 31, 2009

Flowers, Just Because...

So, I asked The Cajun to pick up some milk and bread on the way home yesterday and he showed up with these. It's an all red mix - so pretty.

When I was working, it was always a Very Big Deal when one of us received flowers. It usually meant a new beau for the single gals, an anniversary for the married ones of us, or maybe a birthday. The recipient would beam, the observers would feel a pang of jealousy, but everyone would fawn over them. And, when the flowers didn't have a set common reason for their being, eyebrows would raise and the inevitable "okay, what did he do?" would be raised!

When I asked The Cajun why the flowers, he said "no reason, just because." Aren't those the best kind of flowers to get? Though I have to be honest here and admit ... I did wonder if there was something that he is atoning for I am yet to know about.

So this weekend was the 4th anniversary of Hurricane Katrina. What a milestone that was for my life because things certainly changed for me after that and in fact, they are still evolving today. Who knows what tomorrow will bring.

But ... as much of an event that was, today is an even bigger one, because today would have been my Mama's 73rd birthday.

She passed away 12 years ago from cancer - so young, only 61.

And, while I still today miss her tremendously and I grieve the things she has missed - like the adult her grandson has become, his wedding and becoming a great-grandma, to name a few - I also sense her presence in my life regularly, and I know in my soul that I will one day see her again. It was hard when Mama passed away - my father died a few years before her, and even though losing your Daddy is hard, losing your Mom is much, much more difficult. There is just a connection there between mother and child that is broken and it leaves a hole in your heart that cannot be fixed. You just learn to live with the grief.

Happy Birthday Mother

It's sure to be the best one yet,
Though you left me here behind.
Did you think that I'd forget?

Your cake this year, will surely be,
A beauty to behold.
With the icing made of Silver,
And the candles made of Gold.

Yes your birthday in Heaven,
Will be such a grand affair.
And I know you'll look so lovely,
With a halo in your hair.

The Angels will come from everywhere,
To sing your birthday song.
And I know they'll be so happy,
That you've joined, God's Happy Throng.

No I can't send a card this year,
Or give a gift so fine.
So I'll just send a special prayer,
To that wonderful mother of mine.

Winnie Lovett 1968


  1. WOW...I'm so sorry about your mom. I know I'll lose my mom someday and it's going to be really hard. (((HUGS)))

    Your hubby sounds incredible. What a great guy!

  2. That's a lovely sentiment, Mary. I know you still miss her.

  3. The Cajun just loves you that's all. It is sweet, and simple and it makes you happy..

    Sorry to hear of your mom, it was beautiful tribute to her..Lost mine
    also to that beast, mine was 57
    way to I can relate.....

    Enjoy the beautiful flowers, what
    a vibrant and alive...

  4. Glad you are a happy Gal!!!! Nice poem for your mom.

  5. It never goes away does it? My mom passed 10 years ago this October, at 67. Way too soon. She too had cancer and well, you know. I always try to remember that I will most certainly see her again. What made it even harder was that my brother was in Korea at the time and Mom wouldn't let me call him home. Whenever I mentioned calling him home she would say, "You think I'm gonna die don't you?" Thing is I knew, before anyone, what the deal was.

    I sympathize with you my friend, and I share in your pain. Smell the flowers and feel the love because that never ever changes! Blessings 2 U

  6. Love the flowers! Maybe your husband got them for you because he knows your mom's birthday is a sad day for you. I'm so sorry for you loss. 61 is way too young.

  7. That was very sweet. Maybe the Cajun knew you would be missing your mom.

  8. Very nice tribute to your Mother for her birthday.

    You are right, it is never the same when our Mothers leave us. It leaves a BIG hole in the family. My Mom has been gone for 21 years and every family get-to-gether is slightly off key.

    God Bless you on this day that I know is very difficult for you.

  9. So sorry over the loss of your parents too young.

    Gone, never forgotten.

  10. oh sweet girl!!! what a missing your mom! I am not close with my mother...but so wish that I was!
    your hubby does sound very sweet are blessed!

  11. Thank you for stopping by my blog. I really appreciate it. Sorry that your lost your mom at such a young age. Im a survivor after diagnosed at 29

  12. Lovely poem.

    The flowers are pretty too. I also love the 'just cause' flowers.

  13. thanks for visiting me today. Your blog is beautiful as is the poem. I can't wait to look around your blogs more!

  14. What a sweet tribute to your Mama:) I can't even begin to imagine how hard it would be to not have my mom in my life:(

    Ironically I just did a post about 3 posts ago about my dad's birthday, who died 12 years ago too! Time flies, doesn't it...but it still aches just as bad.

    Thanks so much for stopping by my blog! See you around:)

  15. What a beautiful poem. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. I'm fortunate to still have my mom around and I shudder to think of the day...

    My dad passed away from cancer when he was 64. Too, too young. And a lousy way to go.

    btw~ The Cajun seems like quite the keeper!

  16. What a sweet tribute to your momma. I love my momma too. I can not imagine my life without her.

    Beautiful flowers!


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